Books of 2020 – Georgette Heyer, Amy Harmon, Jacqueline Winspear

First post of 2020!

What happened, this dear blog asks the writer.

Well, inertia.

The more I blog, the more I blog. The longer the gap between 2 posts, the less likely it is for the forthcoming post to be out too easily.

In the meanwhile, I came across this genius personal book rating system by a reviewer on Amazon, which categorised books based on what they did for the reader. I improvised and created this for myself:

People read books for many reasons. I categorize books I’ve read as the following:
A – Books that entertained me and I learnt something from
BL – Books from which I learned something
BE – Books that entertain me
C – Books that wasted my time because they did too little of BL or BE for the time invested
I am not changing my star rating system yet, but I really really liked this non-star categorisation system!
Something else about book ratings that appealed to me:
I divide all literary works into two categories: Those I like and those I don’t like. No other criterion exists for me.” – Anton Chekov (in a letter to a fellow Russian writer in 1890)
Both of these made me think about WHY have I been rating the Agatha Raisin books and Mma Ramotswe books as 4/5 and not 5/5? I do love them both dearly and really, they are are therapy to me. It feels very studpidly uppity to give them 4 stars. I want to give them 5 stars. Because I love them. So I will! The only reason why I had withheld that fifth star earlier was because I didn’t feel they were “deep” enough, but after having read a few of them, I cannot say that any more. These books are teaming with wit and honest observation about daily life and the characters we meet in our own lives, and I honestly cannot fault them.
So, the legend effective henceforth:
Love – 5 stars, Like – 4 stars, Meh – 3 stars
I won’t really have books with 2 or 1 stars because I am good at abandoning books that I don’t like within the first 100 pages.

1. My Grand Sophy by Georgette Heyer – 4/5

I liked it, but did not love it. I expected a bit more in terms of humour perhaps. However, it was still a very pleasant read and I will be getting more by GH.

2. What the Wind Knows by Amy Harmon – 5/5

FINALLY a thoroughly beloved 5 star book! I loved it sooo much and highly recommend it to everyone. The writing was so lyrical, great for lovers of poetry. It was full of love & magic – I loved it. It was also super gripping once it got going (say 50 pages in), and was entirely unputdownable. Finally a book which has lived up to the glorious reviews its received! My first Amy Harmon and I’m eyeing From Sand and Ash next 😃  Or May be her 2020 release – Where the Lost Wander. Either way, I’m super glad to have discovered this author and can’t wait to read more by her! Once I’m through my current TBR pile….grrr.

3. Maisie Dobbs by Jacqueline Winspear – 3.5/5

A new to me series with a strong female lead. I was actually very excited about this book (and series) because of the fantastic reviews it’s got. I have to say that I found it very readable and a solid good book, but not GREAT. It was also quite a bit depressing. I was interested in the story, but not hooked. There wasn’t any wit or humour really. It deals with the trauma of people who lived through the First World War in Britain, with a small mystery. Not longing to pick up the next instalment, although readers say the next book has a lot more mystery.

4. Agatha Raisin and the Terrible Tourist by Agatha Raisin – 4/5

Standard Agatha Raisin fare but I prefer the ones set in Carsley because of the village life charm that oozes from the Carsely ones.

5. Agatha Raisin and the Wellspring of Death – 5/5

Formulaic but Still comforting & enjoyable

6. Agatha Raisin and the Wizard of Evesham – 5/5

Formulaic but Still comforting & enjoyable

Started listening to Little Women audiobook, but really, can’t stop with comparisons with Anne. There is no comparison. Anne is at an entirely different level. So I stopped.


I’m effectively changing my 100 page rule to 50 page rule. If a book doesn’t grab my interest in the first 50 pages, I’m going to let it go because quite frankly, such books end up wasting my time. I wasted almost 2 weeks in January trying to read The Hobbit and then Americanah.
The Hobbit was just boring. The party keep getting caught and escaping… same thing over and over. Sure there are many things in there whichrelate to the human condition, but nothing that is very unique and cannot be felt through other books.
The other book I abandoned (quite early on) was Americanah. I found it a bit fluffy and it had a hypocritical unlikeable lead. The worst kind. Sigh. I had to drop it as I was getting “the rage” towards her.
It got me thinking about unlikeable characters though. Agatha Raisin is also an unlikeable character, but I love those books! Emma Bovary in Madame Bovary was also an unlikeable character – but I liked the book, and did not get “the rage”! Whereas, Lenu in the Neopolitan novels was an unlikeable character, but I got “the rage”. I think the main differences are: (a) when the author takes note of the character and makes inputs (like Flaubert), then as a reader I can side with the author and feel content. OR (b) the unlikeable character isn’t hypocritical and is aware of their terrible behaviour (like in Agatha Raisin), and/or (c) the author through the plotline honors “karma”, hah, that is, the unlikeable character meets the kind of fate that they “deserve”, like with Agatha Raisin (a character like her deserves an equally unlikeable male lead in James Lacey!) and Emma.
But Americanah’s lead character seemed to be very sanctimonious, and the treatment of other characters seemed to be very insulting really. They were flat, and were mostly inserted as embellishments to the story of the lead, and not whole characters by themselves (albeit supporting). The author treated Obinze’s wife with such hostility (for no good reason at the least in the beginning!), that it really irritated me.
I definitely prefer books with likeable and relatable characters, but Agatha Raisin has shown me that I can also thoroughly enjoy books with some unlikeable characters (where the author is AWARE that they’re unlikeable, and the treatment is accordingly appropriate!).
What I’m a bit annoyed with now is that I’m stuck with copies of these books that I can’t even return because it’s beyond Amazon’s 30 day return period! SO. Once I’m done with my TBR, I shall buy books and start reading them immediately, so I can return them if I need to abandon them (like I did with Station Eleven – it was sent right back to Amazon).
p.s.: The formatting is all wrong in this post, and I really can’t be bothered to fix it. 🙂

Books of 2019 – Madame Bovary, I Capture the Castle, Life According to Lubka and more


This is the last post in the Books of 2019 series! Wow, I’ve hit 20 books since I started keeping count in October this year. Not bad. Most of them are pleasure reads and nothing too taxing, and I’m happy to have found this world of beautiful books again! As a result of this, I’ve been watching less TV than usual.

Let’s get straight into December reads. I had a good start, but had a week or so without much reading… Still, I’ve managed to read some good books this month. I really wanted to read a book I could rate 5 star, but sadly, that was not to be.

14. Madame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert – 4/5

Tragic. Dull ache of a read. The story moves very fast which I liked. Melancholic, very observant & honest, however, there were too many unnecessary descriptions. I skimmed through some of the descriptive paragraphs. Emma is quite an unlikeable character, and I felt in this day and age she’d have been diagnosed as being bipolar or with depression. Again, thinking about it from today’s perspective if she’d had a job of her choosing, something that helped with self actualisation, it might’ve been a different story. I did feel bad for Charles, the husband. But his blindness towards her anguish was also strange. I liked that the author commented with his take on Emma’s behaviour…. sometimes authors don’t do that with unlikeable characters such as Elena’s Ferrante’s Neapolitan novels, although, of course, there’s a difference between the two as Ferrante wrote in first person narrative (Elena), while Flaubert wrote as a third person omniscient narrator. Anyway, overall this was a good book, and I’d recommend it. I can see why it’s a classic, since it’s one of the first ever written honest & somewhat thrilling psychological portraits, but I don’t think it’s a MUST read.

15. Life According to Lubka by Laurie Graham – 3.5/5

Largely entertaining, but needed a better editor. Too many typos. Language could’ve been better. It felt a bit disappointing in some ways because prompts for further examination of some simple truths of life were there but they were not explored fully.

16. I capture the Castle by Dodie Smith – 3/5

This was the most frustrating book I read this month. I actually picked up this book with the confidence (based on the many reviews I’d read) that it will end up being a 5 star read. Sadly, it was utterly disappointing (the second half). I LOVED the first half and can easily rate it a 5. But the second half felt like it was written by somebody else!! The second half is a 1 for me, so it would average out to a 3.

It is a bit Austenian in the sense that it is a comment on & satire of the society and position of women during that period. However, there were many themes which were treated with such nonchalance that it was quite shocking for me. Violence against women, emotional neglect, snobbery. The characters were not actually likeable (especially the father) (I liked Cassandra in the first half, not second half where she turns into this highly weepy and deluded teenager), EXCEPT Stephen. If you read it and also feel annoyed by it, feel free to drop a line to discuss it! It’s a hugely popular book though and also considered a “classic” by many, so may be you’ll like the ending! I didn’t, but oh well.

17. Agatha Raisin and the Murderous Marriage by MC Beaton – 4/5

Another comforting, relaxing instalment of Aggie! Very pleased with it.

18. Death of a Gossip by MC Beaton – 3/5

Since I’ve been loving on Agatha Raisin this much, I wanted to try out other series by MC Beaton. However, I didn’t quite like this book much. It was just meh. It took me a long time to get into the book, unlike Agatha Raisin which was go go go. It was hard to get to know the main character, as the story isn’t really told from his perspective mainly. There’s a lot of head jumping, so it’s hard to relate. I understand though that it improves vastly from Book 2 onwards, so let’s hope that’s the case! I have the next one with me, and can’t wait to get into it!

19. The Kalahari Typing School for Men by Alexander McCall Smith – 4/5 

20. The full cupboard of life by Alexander McCall Smith

– 4/5

I read two more instalments of Mma Ramotswe (Ladies No. 1 Detective Agency series) this month, and both were fabulous, as expected. They feel like a warm mug of soup on a cold, grey winters day. Side note, I had first picked up the first book in the series in Law School from the Common Room Library, but felt bored with it and returned it without finishing it. Now, however, I see so much meaning and wisdom in these books. Though many teenagers might read these, these are the kind of books you appreciate more the older you get. Much like the Anne of Green Gables series. There is so much life experience here.


Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel

TEDIOUS. Utterly under-researched, and quite stupid honestly. It’s the post apocalyptic world, yet gypsy theatre performers have 100 candles lit up at the edge of the stage at a time when the author is trying to demonstrate how even basic necessities are scarce?!? Also, why/ how did this virus wipe out all civilisation? If its such a fast virus, it wouldve been contained. Also, North America is not the only place on earth. Surely, with such a deadly outbreak there would’ve been more serious attempts at quarantining the infected people? Also, why are people living in shops in the post apocalyptic world? Clearly buildings have survived, so dwelling houses/ units could still be occupied? Writing is a bit bizarre, flits and flops between characters and timeframes, and also rambles on. Characters randomly introduced and left behind. I reached page 100 and was very underwhelmed, and frankly quite annoyed. ABANDONED after 100 pages.

Guards! Guards! by Terry Pratchett

Not my brand of humour, felt very contrived. Abandoned after 50 odd pages. I read somewhere that if you’re not LOLing within the first few pages then it’s not for you, and decided to take that seriously.

Currently reading The Hobbit. It’s nice, but nothing too exciting. Quite a bit of wisdom in there, so that’s good. Let’s see.

My TBR pile has grown alarmingly tall/ long in the past few weeks. I have finally managed to stop ordering books every second day, but November and early December saw a surge in book ordering resulting in my TBR pile hitting 30!! And this is just all the books I have RECENTLY ordered (i.e. not counting the 10 odd fiction titles and may be 25 non fiction title from the past few years lying in my shelves). Most are paperbacks, as I really love paperbacks and don’t love reading on the Kindle as much. I hope to not order more books until my TBR pile has whittled to under 5. Ambitious.

Also, Happy New Year!

Potluck Picnic, An Odd Request and Other Stories

As you may know (or not), I have been on a mission to broaden my social circle.

Working for yourself, by yourself, in your own office at home – for years – can be isolating, while also providing innumerable benefits and rewards at the same time. And indeed it has been so.

So, this year, I joined Meetup, and found a couple of groups to join.

However, it wasn’t until this Saturday that I actually ended up attending a meetup event.

This was a small Potluck Picnic event at Lodhi Garden with a women’s only group. Food, followed by some games and tea. Sounded lovely, and I’m happy to report that it really was lovely.

One thing that struck me at the event was that people eat a lot of mirchi. Like, a LOT.

There used to be a time when I considered myself a Mirchi Champ. I could handle high levels of mirchi in my food, and in fact was quite addicted to it (and was secretly proud of it). But I’ve changed my ways, and found it’s much better for my system to restrict my mirchi intake, and stick to a pinch of Kashmiri chilli powder (the non-teekha one, which still has some heat; those of us who don’t eat much mirchi can very much taste the heat, thank you very much) at most while cooking.

Thing with mirchi is that, it’s a bit like coffee. The more you have it, the more of it you need for your hit. As a result, people with a mirchi-palate tend to over-mirchi their food, and those of us who any way don’t eat much (if any) mirchi, feel like our insides are on fire on consumption of said kind of food.

A couple of dishes in the potluck were of said over-mirchi variety.

Now, since we were handed out pre-determined quantities of some of these, I couldn’t even not eat it causing offence, so I diplomatically ate the chana pieces, and left the masala. With copious quantities of the delicious (and non-spicy!!!) raita which provided sweet and cold relief to my innards.

Separately, when I told my mother that I’d gone for this picnic, she of course enquired after it.

She also solemnly told me: “Never accept drinks from strangers.” 

I figured that everyone eats the same food at a potluck, so I’m fine if I wait until others are eating before starting, right? Not that any of this entered my mind before the event, I thought of this only after, when my mum had done her motherly duty of informing me of every potential risk involved with a daring activity such as joining a womens only social group where I knew no one.

After the success of the Potluck Picnic, I am now motivated to attend a meeting of the Book Club that I’ve joined (also on Meetup) (also women’s only) (Indian men can be literally the worst, so they’re best avoided unless absolutely necessary, right?). Have fortunately already read the book for this month – A Christmas Carol. Shall report back after attending.

I recently ordered this probiotic (and YUMMY) drink called Beetroot Kanji. It’s seriously yum. It’s my flavour of the month.

Also ordered a bunch of used books on Got a fabulous deal with 8 books coming to just about 1000 bucks. Most of them are MC Beatons, and a couple other cozy mysteries, or Comfy Crime (as MC Beaton would like us to refer to them as).

However, I’d then been consumed with a bit of guilt, because authors don’t get paid on used book sales. Of course, I knew that, but it didn’t register, register. Being a creative myself, I am keenly aware of the importance of creatives getting paid WELL for their amazing work.

Was in a dilemma for a bit on this matter, but now I’ve resolved it in my head in this way: I will only buy used books by authors who have passed on (of course unless I can’t find a new copy, that is). That way, I get the odd deal once in a while, and don’t feel bad about authors not getting their due. And YES, I would any day rather be a person supporting authors than used book stores (no matter how small and noble they might be). YES.

A few days back, I received a most odd request – someone (could be described as a “youth” perhaps) wanted to watch me work and learn from my process. Errr… I’m afraid, I am not a museum! Since when has it become acceptable to ask a practical stranger if you can watch them at their workplace? Oh well, it takes all sorts.

Books of 2019 – Agatha Raisin, Isabel Dalhousie, and Christmas Books


I’ve updated my rating system since the last time I posted. Here’s my new legend:
5 – Loved it, close to my heart, adore it, highly recommend
4 – Liked it, enjoyable/ gained something from it, recommend
3 – Meh, read at your own risk
2 – Did not like it (likely a book I wanted to abandon, but persevered to finish it and still did not find it worth it)
1 – To be avoided

7. Agatha Raisin & The Quiche of Death by M.C. Beaton – 4/5

8. Agatha Raisin and the Vicious Vet – 4/5 

9. Agatha Raisin and the Potted Gardener – 4/5

10. Agatha Raisin and the Walkers of Dembley – 4/5  

I’ve been on an Agatha Raisin trip these past few days. These books are pure, delightful, escapist pleasure. I started with the first book, and it was quite impossible to not proceed with the next, and the next and the next.

Agatha is an unlikeable lead whom you warm up to. She has her redeeming qualities. She has some good qualities like she’s honest and doesn’t have double standards, she can see through fakeness and isn’t fake herself. Loved it, it gave me the lovely warm and fuzzy feeling I get from Anne books. I think I might’ve become a bit addicted to the “cosy mystery” genre! The character that I’m not too fond of (because I’ve grown fond of Agatha) is James Lacey.

11. Sunday Philosophy Club by Alexander McCall Smith – 4/5

Now that I’m well into the Mma Ramotswe series, I wanted to try other series by AMS.

This is similar to Ladies Detective Agency but also quite different. Writing style is completely different – I prefer the writing in SPC. Plot line & resolution similar & simplistic. What makes it really enjoyable & unique are the philosophical musings. I love thinking about philosophical questions like Isabel, and it felt like we might have been having a conversation. A very unique book & I look forward to more! I would classify more as a philosophy lit rather than mystery. Also, it’s not funny / humourous, but more on the reflective side. One quote which really stood out to me, on account of having met many such characters: “With John Liamor it was not essential to believe in anything; all that was required was the ability to mock.”

12. The Christmas Sisters by Sarah Morgan – 3/5

Christmas fluff. Characters are a bit flat & stereotypical. There are inconsistencies & continuity errors. This definitely needed more editing. I would’ve enjoyed this more as a movie i.e. with gorgeous visuals. Did not have much depth. I was actually disappointed and also bored while reading it. I expected more!

13. A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens – 4/5

A classic. Although, had it been published in 2019 it wouldn’t have had the success it did. It might’ve been classed as too utopian and simplistic. But, I love it for its message. Yes, people don’t really change as quickly as Mr. Scrooge did, but it’s nice to get a reminder every now and then to appreciate and enjoy the lovely people & things around us.

I also started reading but abandoned Unmarriagable by Soniah Kamal (kindle) about a 100 pages in. It reminded me of the movie Mona Lisa Smile because of the setting. The names were very annoying (Mr. Bingley becomes Mr. Bingla??!). May be if you’re not South Asian, you would not be bothered by the names; but I was, because these names sounded wholly unrealistic. Also felt very pseudo-liberal. Girls smoking is considered “liberal and free minded”? How archaic can it get? Probably made worse by the fact that I was listening to Pride & Prejudice (the audiobook), and there is simply no comparison.

I’m wondering, should I also rate the books I did not finish? Because well, I did read them for a while and abandoned for a reason? And this is something I check on Amazon reviews – why did people abandon a book, if they did. Shall think about it.


Books of 2019 – Circe, Tears of the Giraffe, Morality for Beautiful Girls and a note on Audiobooks

4. Circe by Madeline Miller – 2.5/5

I really wanted to like this book.

It did not help that this book has been hyped quite a bit, and I read many a “Don’t overthink this. Just buy this book NOW.” kind of reviews, which meant I had a certain level of expectation from it.

For me, a 3 means “It’s okay, I liked it”. A 4 is “I loved it and I recommend it.” A 5 means “I loved it and would recommend it to errrrrbody”.

I cannot honestly say I liked this book. I simply did not.

First of all, although the story “moves” it was not gripping at all. I am not one who needs major twists and turns to keep things interesting (my favourite books are the Anne books and Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix where nothing much really happens plot wise, but it’s all the other wonderful-ness that the author spins around mundane everyday things of life).

But this book just didn’t grab my attention. I kept struggling. I even chucked my 100 page rule (I will abandon a book if it does not interest me even 100 pages into it – life is too short to read things you don’t like). I persevered. But it only got slightly interesting in the last 80 pages or so. I thought that since the author had excellent source material to work with, she might have been able to add more flair and thought to it, but I found that severely lacking. It was a re-telling, yes, and the author was successful in demonstrating a different perspective, but it hasn’t been executed with depth.

The writing felt disjointed at many places. I struggled to gauge why it’s such a bestseller.

This has happened to me in the past with hyped books and it has happened with this book.

5. Tears of the Giraffe by Alexander McCall Smith – 4/5

6. Morality for Beautiful Girls by Alexander McCall Smith – 4/5

These are the second and third books in the No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency series – and I admit I’m a bit addicted to them.

The best thing about these books is the interesting observations on the human condition with a sense of (dry but gentle) humour. Nothing too disturbing or shocking happens (there are some dark themes which are explored, but they have been explored with a mature, optimistic hand).

I love the notes on moral dilemmas and the liberty that the author takes with philosophising (and also knowing when to drop it and get on with the plot).

Again, the sub-plots were not anything out of the world, they were very predictable in fact. However, it’s such a pleasure to read these books, and lose yourself in this world.

I have already ordered the next two books in this series and have also got my hands on the first book in the Isabel Dalhousie series by the same author.

I tried to start The Pursuit of Love by Nancy Mitford (I have a giant omnibus with all of her major works), but couldn’t get into it. Now thinking of starting Unmarriageable by Soniah Kamal which is a retelling of Pride and Prejudice set in Pakistan – sounds fun and interesting.

I am also listening to an audiobook version of Pride and Prejudice and find it to be perfectly acceptable background noise while working. Audiobook versions of books I’ve already read would only work for this purpose though, because I don’t pay 100% attention while working (obviously). Since I’d already read it, I knew not to panic when I found Jane going from dancing with Mr. Bingley at one moment to being sick and bed-ridden, while Eliza is “taking turns about the room” with Bingley’s sister a couple of hours later.

Separately, I’m also not counting audiobooks in my “books READ” list. Although they are simply different ways of consuming the same content, they are fundamentally different when it comes to experience. Reading is an active pursuit, i.e. your brain needs to be fully engaged. You can’t really “zone out” and “keep reading” at the same time. Your brain is actively creating images for you. When I’m reading, I can vividly “see” what’s happening in the story. I have a full set developed in my head, and I really see the characters going through their stories, and feel with them. It’s an active form of engagement. Listening to audiobooks is akin to watching television. A lot of the imagining is done for you. Audiobook narrators often bring in a lot of “character” with them. It’s a passive form of engagement.

Both have their own place for me.

Books of 2019 – The Zoya Factor, The No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency, The Parisian

Continuing with my Books for 2019 list which I only started in the last week of September, I’m here to make a couple of additions.

I’ve been reading instead of streaming shows in the evening. It’s more relaxing and helps me fall asleep easier. Also, just as entertaining (provided it’s the right book!!).

2. The Zoya factor by Anuja Chauhan – 2/5

I could not get into this book. But I finished reading it.

Why did I pick it up in the first place?

Well, I enjoyed the movie. It was cute and I love happy & sappy romances, and this movie had all of that going on! The kindle version of the book was available for free, so I downloaded it.

I might have liked it if I didn’t already know the major plot points, because the story is quite novel. Apart from that, this book does not do well in my books (hahahha). The language is atrocious and I want to gently shake the editor’s shoulders for missing even basic line editing points (there are many spelling errors, grammatical errors, words that are used incorrectly, etc.); there are numerous “facts” about Cricket which are atrociously wrong (one would expect the author to undertake a basic fact check while she’s spinning her yarn! And at the very least for the publisher to do it if the author hasn’t!); and I really don’t like slang Hinglish in books (which brings us back to language).

It gets 2 (and not 1) only because it’s gripping and for the novel plot, but not much else, really! It is light hearted and entertaining in many ways, so there’s that. Well, I did finish it, and didn’t abandon as I usually do with books I don’t like.

3. The No.1 Ladies Detective Agency by Alexander McCall Smith – 4/5

This was a nice, soothing, comforting read. It’s quite gripping and entertaining even though there aren’t too many major or unexpected twists and turns.

It introduces the main characters in the series, and there are some simple (and cute) (and very predictable) mysteries that are solved. But I enjoyed it, and plan to keep reading this series because I love this author’s style and his little observations and nuggets of wisdom peppered through out the book.

I docked one point for how simple the mysteries were; and how everyone conveniently did what Mma Ramotswe would want them to – needs some amount of suspension of disbelief.

I have procured the next two books in this series, and the first one in the Isabel Dalhousie series by the same author. Excited about those!

The Parisian by Isabella Hamad 

I started this book and really wanted to like it, but I just couldn’t get into it! It has not been engaging at all. Since I’ve abandoned this book, I haven’t numbered it. May be I’ll get back to it at a later point in life.

Currently reading Circe by Madeline Miller , and finding it quite dull really. Hope it picks up soon!!

Turning 30, Coworking Spaces & Coffee Shop Working, Chai Tea Latte & Diwali Vibes

Hello dear blog (and non existent Blog Readers, except me from the future), Hi!

It’s been a while since I’ve posted an update here.

Well, for starters, we had a lovely trip to France in the first two weeks of October. I turned 30 in Paris! It sounds very old when I put it down in writing, but I assure you that in my head, I am still 15. Yes, may be I feel I’m a bit wiser now, may be I know better how to read people, may be I feel that age is just a social construct, and AGEING IS A PRIVILEGE, but my way of thinking hasn’t really changed much. And I’m very glad about that.

I have been meaning to do a proper France recap post(s) with photos etc. for memory keeping, but just haven’t gotten around to it, because, well, life and laziness (mostly laziness).

It will happen soon though.

In other news, I have been consumed by coworking space hunting in Delhi for the last few weeks. I have been madly researching (online), and also visiting a few of the well known coworking spaces which are close-ish to Vasant Kunj. However, this process has been most frustrating. Nothing ticks all my boxes (literally – have got a checklist on Evernote), and leaves out some basic needs. For example, Wework’s Hotdesking area did not have ergonomic seating, and their Dedicated Desk room was dead silent, and I mean DEAD silent. Pin drop silent. I could hear my laptop going down with a loud thud when I simply (and very, very carefully) placed it on the table. That is NOT the vibe I’m looking for! Another place (Goworkin in Green Park) had a good vibe, but the toilet was horrendous. Read public loo levels of horrendous. Innov8 Saket was quite poorly designed, in that the space was very linear, and felt quite cramped.

Basically, nothing has worked out in the Coworking department. After a couple of weeks of this rubbish, I got fed up and went to a cafe to get some actual work done – and I did. I love working out of coffee shops! So I have decided that for now I will stick to coffee shop working.

You might ask, why did I simply not continue to do that? Well, the reason is that coffee shops don’t have mail & package handling so it has been quite stressful being at cafes while also expecting couriers. But from now on, I might have some of my mail delivered at Y’s office. The other thing is that coffee shops don’t have internet, or even if they do, it’s quite abysmal for my needs (I regularly upload and download 300 – 400 mb large files for work). But, I can continue with my workaround for that, that is, I just do the uploading & downloading of things from my home office. Requires me to be more organised but this is not really a pain. And I love the vibe at coffee shops.

SO, coffee shops it is for now.

On that note, today I went back to my favourite cafe working spot – Starbucks Ambience Mall, Vasant Kunj. I loveee this place. The chairs are super ergonomic for my body (I actually find the setup there more comfy than that at my office), the vibe & atmosphere is just right, the AC level is perfect. Today I tried my first ever Chai Tea Latte. LOL. It reminded me of the pre-mixed tea that you get on Indigo flights and at movie halls. A lighter & sweeter version of that really.

Diwali is on 27th October (just 3 days away!), and the festive vibe is in the air! For starters, Starbucks did not have nearly as many “working” type people as usual.

Also, we have been attending fun diwali parties at friends’ houses. Delhi people celebrate Diwali by hosting and attending Taash Parties. You mostly play a betting game called Teen Patti, which is mostly a game of luck & bluffing skills. It’s quite fun once you get the hang of it. I still don’t remember the order of hands (I have a handy guide on my phone), but I have figured out which type of hand is likely to get you how far in which variation. For example, in a variation like 1947 Love Story (where all 1’s, 9’s, 4’s, 7’s and hearts are jokers) it’s a waste to keep playing unless you have an Ace Trail). I’m getting better at things like this. But of course, this also depends on the kind of people you play with, and you have to mark how they play.

I had been wanting to do a Diwali Party at home this year but we aren’t going to because of an annoying case of seepage attack in the bathroom and kitchen!!! It’s the same outer wall which gets seepage-ed out every alternate year. Quite a pain to deal with!

Any way, we have another Diwali Party tomorrow and then nothing until Diwali day itself. I’m thinking of making a small but cute Rangoli this year, since we are actually here!

I love simple family traditions and want to do our own! For example, when I was living in Safdarjung Enclave Extension, I used to visit BA (my aunt) for Diwali and we’d make rangoli at her house, light diyas and of course stuff our faces with food & sweets! Back at home, my sister and I always placed and lit diyas on our balcony railings and at our entrance of course. I want to do similar things here! Y is most unenthusiastic about things like this so it’s going to be a challenge to get him to participate.

I am also getting super excited about Christmas. Already. It’s just October!!! I LOVE all things Christmas. I keep saving recipes of Hot Chocolate. I have stocked up on two Christmas books this year and keep eyeing all the new holiday reads coming out! But I really must not buy any more books until I finish the ones in my TBR pile. I’m currently on Circe, and it’s strictly OK so far. I’ve contemplated ditching it once or twice, but I keep hoping that it’ll get better! Let’s hope it does, otherwise it’s getting a 2.5/5 from me (yes I’ve started rating books, next post will clarify)!

Books of 2019 – Man at The Helm

Should I keep a count and rating of all books read?

May be I will start now for 2019, and keep updating this list as I go.

I thought about actually using my Goodreads account, but that felt too “social” and also may be a bit competitive. It would sure feel great to have a visual representation of all the books read in a particular year – what with the lovely pictures they assemble of all the book covers. It’s also a good resource for digging out reviews and making a decision on whether I want to read something or not (though I’ve realised my opinions are most aligned with British readers, so I read reviews over at before making book purchase decisions).

The cons of Goodreads, apart from the social aspect is that I don’t know how long Goodreads will last as a platform. My blog is here to stay and it’s much easier to access, search and find what I thought about something if it’s documented here.

And honestly I can’t be bothered to write my thoughts down on multiple platforms. Mainly because I’m doing this for my own record (of my thoughts) and not as a way to keep any kind of score.

Also, have you noticed how Kindle books are pretty much the same price as paperbacks  – and sometimes more expensive than paperbacks – these days? I read it’s due to the Agency model, where the publisher determines the price of e-books. With paperbacks, the publisher sells them to the retailer at wholesale prices, and then the retailer determines the final price. Due to this, the retailer is able to offer steep discounts on paperbacks, whereas Kindle books remain at their usual pricing (which is not cut throat, as publishers do not wish to push kindle books over paperbacks).

Now, my dilemma is whether to purchase kindle books or paperbacks for books that I’m not likely to re-read (which is 99% of books). I was all for kindle books for such reads because they were much cheaper (and that also offsets the cost of the Kindle device). But, when prices are the same (or similar, within Rs.100 of each other), I instinctively feel like purchasing the paperback, because I can keep the book in my shelf, share it, and generally the book becomes a collectible. Separately, I quite like the tactical aspect of holding a paperback, it’s smell, and the ability to flip through it quickly.

Paperbacks also means more space for books, but also that your books are safe from an event where the kindle become obsolete.

Decisions, decisions!

For now, let’s start with the book that I just finished (numbering and will continue to number in future posts).

1. Man at the Helm by Nina Stibbe – 3.5/5

 It’s marketed as a comedy, but for the most part, I don’t understand why.

What kind of a person would consider the plight of three little children stuck with their toxic narcissistic mother, desperately trying to find ways to make her happy and get a “new man at the helm” (after their parents’ divorce), because British society of the 1970s tended to ostracise divorcee (women) FUNNY? The book is written from the perspective of young Lizzie Vogel (Nina Stibbe is said to have channeled her own childhood in this autobiographical novel).

I sincerely have more to say about the people who have reviewed this book and said they laughed out loud multiple times, than I do about the book.

My explanation for this misrepresentation is that Nina’s first book (Love, Nina) was actually very funny and humorous, and Nina was hailed as a comic writer. Her publisher might have wanted to continue pitching her work as being in the humour category, and hence put together a bunch of quotes from other eminent authors saying things like this book is “comedy gold”.

This book deals with a heartbreaking subject in a light and airy way. Light and airy not in an insulting way, but because it’s written from the perspective of a child who did not really fully understand why things were the way they were, what she deserves as a child, and how she’s been robbed of that. I loved that Nina maintained her voice and did not “enter” as an adult in the narrative.

While reading this book, I felt very fortunate to have had a fairly normal upbringing. It also threw light on the utterly unfair and bigoted treatment of divorcees (women only) in 1970’s rural England.

What warms your heart up in the book is the resourcefulness and solution oriented-ness of the children. And of course the story itself is warm and uplifting.

I liked that this book dealt with a serious and depressing subject in a way that was not gloomy or bleak. It was full of optimism, something that only a child’s perspective can lend.

This is why I like Nina Stibbe’s work. She deals with everyday things with a light hand, but without losing its depth, but also not be preying on the vulnerabilities of the reader with the intention of producing a tear jerker (which sadly many bestselling books are).

I finished this book in about 4 days (I only read in the evenings after work) which means it was quite addictive once it got going. I’d recommend it to others but please don’t expect a to laugh out loud too much (and if you do, don’t tell me), the way your would in Love, Nina. Overall, it’s a lovely book which eventually warms your soul in a comforting way, and leaving you wanting to laugh a little and cry at the same time.

Next in this line of books is Paradise Lodge, but I think I’ll read some other things before that (considering how many unread books are lying in my shelves!).

Books of Late – E. M. Delafield, L. M. Montgomery, Cal Newport

I’m on a bit of a blogging roll here, and I want to keep up with the momentum (while it lasts).

I’ve been meaning to document a few of my recent leisure reads but each time I’d get to the appropriate “books read” part of a round up blog post, I was already too tired of writing, and would promise a future installment.

Also, these are books that have made some impression on me, and I want to remember them, so it makes sense to blog about them. I normally abandon books if they don’t grasp my interest by page 100.

Jane of Lantern Hill, Chronicles of Avonlea, Diary of a Provincial Lady
Jane of Lantern Hill, Chronicles of Avonlea and The Diary of a Provincial Lady (the framed postcard says “Travel is cheaper than therapy” (from an indie art store in Sri Lanka)

I so badly wanted to fall in raving, mad love with The Diary of a Provincial Lady by E. M. Delafield. It sounded like something I would be thoroughly entertained by. I highly enjoy reading books set in this Edwardian-Victorian era. Also, I stumbled upon this book while looking up books that people who liked Nina Stibbe’s Love Nina: Despatches From Family Life would like. And I LOVED Love Nina. Had to read it in a single sitting with breaks for meals and sleep.

The subject matter of Provincial Lady is intriguing, and I feel it is enlightening in many aspects, but in terms of comic value, it simply has not delivered yet (which it has promised!! otherwise I would not expect it as a matter of right). The husband seems to be too mean a character to be found funny, and the provincial lady herself seems quite petty. Also, there is some dialogue in French with no English translation footnotes, which are hard to keep track of. I am halfway through the first book. I really want to like it, if not love it; and I’ll certainly persevere. BUT, persevere is really not a world I want to use while talking about leisure reads. They are supposed to be delightful escapes (hopefully dotted with insightful thoughts and HUMOUR, lots of humour).

Provincial Lady is now my 10 minute filler read for whenever I don’t have enough time to dive in, but want to be lightly entertained for a bit.

Now, coming to the two L. M. Montgomery books. I carried these two to Maldives with me, and my my, it was the perfect reading experience. Away on a secluded island, surrounded by heart-achingly beautiful nature, it was the perfect place to experience Maud’s descriptive deep dives. I loved Jane of Lantern Hill. It was a super quick, entertaining, engrossing and thoroughly enjoyable read which uplifts and soothes your soul. You feel for the poor lead character, starved of emotional connection, an underestimated and neglected soul. As with all of Maud’s work, it paints glorious pictures of her beloved Prince Edward Island, and takes her heroine through many adventures which you wish you had as a kid. It made me want to rewind my childhood and go live on a farm somewhere. It also made me want to always have a lovely table cloth and fresh cut flowers on my dining table. You’ll want to too, when you read the book!

Chronicles of Avonlea is a collection of short stories by L. M. Montgomery. Many of the stories feature Anne as a side character. Not as unputdownable as Maud’s novels, but still highly entertaining. They are all pretty much about similar themes, but with their own little subtle nuances. I’ve never been one to read short stories, but I thoroughly enjoyed this compilation. It also felt special to read this particular copy as it was printed before I was even born (bought it second (or whatever) hand on Amazon).

I keep reading educational, interesting non-fiction and spiritual material almost always. One non-fiction book which I recently read (on my Kindle, and hence no picture) and found valuable was Deep Work by Cal Newport. If you’re finding it hard to focus, it’s a good book to get ideas on techniques for getting that focus back into your work life. The method of working prescribed by Cal is my natural way of doing things. But, it’s always interesting to read another person’s take on “how to do life” (and work!!). The most interesting parts of the book were about case studies and anecdotes about how other people use this sort of principle to order their work life. Loved it and it was a good stimulus to think about my own routines and habits (current and over the years)

“Perfect Happiness” and Imperfect Peace

A couple of hours ago I had finished reading Liz Rosenberg’s biography of the beloved L.M. Montgomery, titled “House of Dreams: The Life of L. M. Montgomery. I finished it in pretty much a single sitting. Monday saw me deep dive into all things Prince Edward Island. Tuesday, I read (and re-read) numerous articles on Maud, and ordered this book on Amazon. Wednesday the book arrives. It’s Thursday afternoon now.

The last line in the book is a poignant sentence from her once private (now widely published and read (with her consent)) journals:

Perfect happiness I have never had – never will have… yet there have been, after all, many wonderful and exquisite hours in my life.”

Through out the biography, I kept wondering what it was that made Maud the way she was. The way she lived in two extremes – in her own mind. Why couldn’t she focus more on the splendid things in her life? Why did she find herself fixating on things that were beyond her control? Why did she never grow out of the anxiety caused by the pressure of living under a constant doom of “what will people think?” which was ingrained in her early childhood? Why did she not have much emotional growth personally?

Maud had faced early loss and abandonment in her life. She felt socially and emotionally stunted in her early years (until the age of 15 or so). However, she still had all of the material comforts any child of that time could have needed. She also went on to have a lovely sprint as a student, and then a teacher. She kept meeting with stiff resistance from her patriarchal grandfather, but she had some silent support from her grandmother. A lot of her decisions have baffled me, though. And I was also surprised to find so much focus on things she lacked – even when she did not really lack much. Through out each stage of her life, she had at least one close confidante and supporter, and often more. She was surrounded by friends and cousins. She had an active social life. She was fairly rewarded for her early short story writing career. She received instant success with her novels. When her grandmother died, she was a financially independent woman – something which was rare and unheard of in rural Canada of that time. She had many, MANY good things going for her.

It is also possible that just like her heroines, she romanticised pain and suffering. That could be one potential explanation for her fixation on melancholy. She also romanticised the idea of loss. Even though she promised to be a “messenger of optimism and sunshine” (which most certainly has been) to her audience, it seems she was not able to converse to her own self in that same vein. She also found the most depressing things to manically obsesses about – like the two World Wars. Of course, through all of this, she managed to escape into her literary worlds and spun tales of effortless joy and hope for her audience. But, dear Maud, why didn’t you create such worlds in your own daily life? Why didn’t you use your imagination create a sense of loveliness in your own actual life?

This biography has left me with more questions than answers. I must read her actual journals, and try to see if I can make any sense of it. Of course, I am fully prepared to not receive answers to my questions even then.

Just as I thought it was a good time to take a break from Maud (now that this book had come to an end), I watched a bit of Masterchef Australia over lunch. Then, I indulged in 10 minutes of Instagram scrolling, where I came across this news headline:

Saravana Bhawan founder Rajagopal, facing life term for murder, dies.” – 18th July 2019

Really? I know nothing about this person. But, I imagined the founder of a wildly successful food chain to have some peace in his life. And peaceful people don’t kill other people.

It seems like the Universe is sending a definite messages across.

Fame & fortune and happiness & peace are two different things. They are not mutually exclusive, but the former does not guarantee the latter.